Skill emphasis during the interview is important to show the employer what makes you different from all the other job candidates. In this competitive world, companies search for the most qualified employees by weighing skills of the candidates and determining how they would benefit the company.

Majority of the top companies search for employers who stands out based from their expertise, ability to give new developments, and pleasing personalities that would enhance the organization.

Skills are grouped into three kinds â?? knowledge-based, transferable, and personal traits.

1) Knowledge-based skills are those learned from experiences. These may include educational attainment, additional training, seminars attended, and other practices that you have studied to enhance your expertise.

Knowledge-based skills include computer and communication skills, marketing or managerial knowledge, product development, and many more. These skills vary depending on the field of industry of each job candidate.

2) Transferable or portable skills are those you bring to a specific job. This is the reason why interviewers ask, â??What could you offer the company?â? Transferable skills are important because companies strive to look for quality employees that would improve the development of the workforce.

Portable skills include problem solving, team leader potential, organized, writing and communication skills, customer service oriented, time and project management, and good with numbers and budget. This kind of skills varies depending on the experience and versatility of each job candidate.

3) Personal traits determine who you are. In a job interview, one of the most common things an employer says is â??Tell me something about yourself.â? Your response is vital because it would set the tone for the rest of the interview.

Personal traits include good judgment, well organized, analytical, goal oriented, flexible, creative and many more. Try to sell yourself in as modest as possible within a limited time.

* Self-assessment. In order to provide an impressive presentation, examine your resume and list all the skills you have used for each past job experience. Make a comprehensive list of your skills and strengths including personal traits, knowledge-based and transferable skills. This would be the basis for your personal commercial.

* Once you have completed your script, you are now ready to face the interviewer. Remember that employers are interested in your accomplishments. Use words that are concise, direct and clear.

Although many companies require a unique set of skills, you should still highlight your technical skills in the interview. These skills, which top companies usually seek, include leadership, communication, confidence, flexibility, problem solving and energy.

Emphasizing all of your strengths and skills on job interviews would increase your chances of landing the desired job.

Nicholas Tan
http://www.articlesbase.com/careers-articles/jobs-importance-of-skills-emphasis-on-job-interviews-316569.html

As a personal development coach, a question that comes my way nearly every day is, “how do I gain confidence.” I’m sometimes surprised at the crazy notions people can have regarding “what it takes” to become a confident person. Some even produce a laundry list of things they believe they must do, achieve and overcome in order to gain confidence.

When this happens, my primary job shifts from coach to “bubble buster.” Here’s why:

Building confidence is a process, but it does not have to take ages. Well-meaning “experts” will often tell you the opposite: “there are no shortcuts to building confidence-it takes a long time, and lots of hard work, yada, yada, yada…”

Allow me to strongly disagree. Confidence is not something you gain because you have finally earned your own respect. Not at all! Confidence comes from the realization that you don’t have to do anything to be worthy of your respect. This realization can take you 5 minutes or five years; it’s entirely up to you.

The fact is, you are worthy of every bit of respect and acceptance you can muster simply because you exist. Nature is awesome and filled with infinite possibility; therefore YOU are awesome and filled with infinite possibility-end of story.

I am aware that there is a very misguided notion throughout the world that insists that humans have value only if they achieve something that others in their culture deem “worthy.”

I’m also aware that this paradigm is pure self-destructive nonsense.

But that wasn’t always the case. For much of my life I accepted the reigning paradigms of pettiness and self-loathing that are so prevalent in society (see any of the so-called “reality” TV shows for verification). I only gained personal and financial freedom after I began to see through some of the disinformation that pollutes our collective consciousness, and decided that “I” had tremendous value simply because I was here-no matter what I did, said or achieved (of all the nerve!).

When an individual ‘wakes up” and begins seeing this illogical, competitive paradigm that much of the world operates under for what it is, they become supremely confident. They no longer are bound by achievement or the opinions of others.

Ironically, people who develop this level of self-acceptance often achieve great things. When you are not bound by achievement or competition, your creative mind takes center stage, and you begin creating greatness in your life, instead of pissing around with the “rat race” trying to compete for scraps.

If you want to “work on” building confidence for five years, and you’ve got that kind of time to waste, that’s entirely your call. But it’s not necessary. Powerful confidence can developed in a week. I’ve seen it many times, and there are plenty of tools to help you do it-once you know where to look.

Yes, developing confidence is a process, but no, it doesn’t have to take a long time. You don’t have to “earn” confidence, like some Boy Scout merit badge. You only have to recognize that you are already worthy of more respect than you could possibly give yourself in ten lifetimes. It’s a matter of accepting what is already true: your power, potential and ability are awesome.

Jon Mercer
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/how-do-i-gain-confidence-119671.html

I'm interested in practical advice or tips on increasing self confidence and self esteem in particular with guys. My friends and even strangers often tell me that I'm very pretty and smart but when I like a guy, I often don't have the confidence to believe in myself and end up losing him for what is interpreted as lack of interest. How can I believe in myself more? I am capable and have good friends, the problem seems to start when I like a guy. I've had some good relationships but recently seem to have been disappointed in a couple of guys I dated.

Sadly, it's sort of a downward spiral. You lose self-confidence and it hits your self-esteem which lowers your confidence which lowers your self-esteem, etc.

Having been through the cycle before, my advice is that you need to take a moment and perform an honest self-assessment. In doing so, you need to put everything (and I mean everything) in your life under the microscope and figure out what stays and what has to go. It's not always easy, and you don't come out of it all smiles and grins. But, you should have a plan and (at the risk of sounding all Tony Robbins) the next step is to execute the plan. For me, it involved focusing on work and being a responsible adult (i.e., pay my bills, stop buying things I didn't need, and get into shape).

The idea being that you gain self-confidence when you reach the goals that you set for yourself; because once you learn that you can do things that you set your mind to do, you learn to trust yourself. Once you learn to trust yourself, you find that you can stop relying on others and that's when you have self-esteem.

What also helps is making sure that you have a solid support network. I'm going to be honest, that's not as easy as it sounds. You need to associate with people who don't have needless drama in their lives. If you have friends and family that drama just seems to go out of its way to then find, you need to reduce the amount of time you spend with those folks. Sometimes this can be painful or confusing, but unstable people are a wrecking ball for the self-esteem and confidence of others.

I hope that helps.

i want to build self confidence and be able to stand up for myself and feel good about myself. like this always happens to me whenever i see another person thats really pretty i always think im not pretty anymore like i would walk into somewere and feel gorgues until i see someone else….and i dnt wanna feel like that anymore….how can i do that without going to a counsler or a theripist<personal issiues)

I honestly wouldn't strive to be like someone you envy. That would make you really boring, just like everyone else.

Find a style that appeals both to you and other people and strive to make "that" as best as it can be. Then you please yourself and others.

Strive to make yourself happy first, not others. Because once you're happy, others around you notice that and become happy for you.

And if it's not specifically materialistic things, then focus on yourself in general, strengthen yourself internally, make sure you stand up for what you believe in. If they don't like it, then just say to yourself, "That's life. It happens. Not everyone in the world is going to love me."

Also make sure you assert yourself and show that you believe what you believe about any matter, school, people, anything. When you show them that your opinion counts too, then it no longer becomes whether or not someone has a better personality, popularity status, or look than you. It then turns into respect. And respect is the main thing. If people respect you, then it doesn't matter whether or not someone thinks someone else is better than you because you know you're accepted by them and have their respect. You know they think highly of you and that's all you need. Even the people you are envious of will respect you.

I'm being appointed flight commander in jrotc
[meaning i have to command many people]
although, im very nervous about this whole thing.
How can i build the confidence I need?
yep, your right smitimb.

You were selected because you have something that training corps desires in a leader. Trust that that's a time honored practice and they picked the best person for the job. Make a cognitive assessment and tell yourself that you no longer need your peer's friendship or approval. Finally, hold yourself to a higher standard. Be the fittest, smartest, hardest working, most prudent cadet in your unit. Flight and JRTOC allude that you might be in a High School Air Force program? Am I right?

The word for confidence in Gaelic is muinín (pronounced muneen) and it is also the word for trust. The English dictionary definition of confidence is “firm trust,” “a feeling of reliance or certainty.” So, self-confidence is really about trusting yourself. The question then is how can you learn to trust yourself. The other important thing to note about self-confidence is that it can often be at a low ebb when we are in the midst of making important changes. At this point, our old certainties are beginning to fade away and our new life has not yet fully kicked in. What is given in this article are 10 ways to get it back when it looks like it has gone away.

1. Feedback from friends and family: Ask five people that you know and trust to give you a list of three things they really like about you. Either ask them to write them down, or write them down yourself in a special notebook. And then read and enjoy them!

2. Top 50 achievements: Write out a list of 50 things you are proud of achieving. It doesn’t matter how big or how small. If you can’t think of anything, begin with learning to walk, learning to talk and learning to write! Scientists are still baffled as to how small humans can learn these complex skills in relatively short periods of time! And no, NOT everybody can walk, talk and write!

3. Act “as if”: Ask yourself what would you do, what would you say, how you would ask if you were confidentâ??then, choose a situation and act confidently in that. Yes, I know you are not confident yet, but if you act “as if,” you will find that after a while you begin to feel confident.

4. Keep your promises: How do you know if someone is trustworthy? You know because trustworthy people do what they say and say what they do. And that includes promises to yourself. For example, are you the type of person who says “I’ll be there in 20 minutes,” knowing full well that it will take you an hour. What message is that sending to you and to others? Begin by keeping promises that you make. This is an ESSENTIAL part of building confidence in yourself. After all, if you can’t trust yourselfâ?¦

5. Take a chanceâ?¦be yourself: One thing I regularly hear from clients who have confidence issues is how they won’t do or say something because of the fear of being “stupid”â?¦only invariably to hear someone else come out with the same “stupid” idea and being respected for it. This week, give your honest opinion. Be respectful of others, but state your opinion calmly and clearly.

6. Do something you enjoy: Few things can give the rush of confidence that mastery can. By mastery, I mean doing something comfortably and competently. Think of the confidence you got when you learned to drive, when you got to grips with a computer program. Do something that you are good at–you must have something that you are good at, no matter how small it seems.

7. Get confidence buddies: Ask 2-3 people to be there when you need reassurance, when your confidence is shaky. Ask them to remind you that you have gotten out of this before. Ask them to remind you of all the good qualities that you have.

8. Help someone else: No matter how badly off you think you areâ?¦there is always someone who has worse problems than you. And, seeing this and getting things into perspective is a great way of building confidence. Look around you and find someone or an organization to volunteer with. If you can’t find one, give a gift to your favorite charity.

9. Gratitude: Look at what you do have. Know that even if some aspects of your life are not working out the way you wanted them…there are bound to be aspects that are working well..be thankful for those.

10. Be kind to yourself: After all, that is what you would do for a friend who is going through a confidence crisis.

Take Action!

Even if your confidence level is good, choose one of the steps outlined above and implement it this week. You could get a couple of confidence buddies, help someone else or really go mad and be yourself!

Anne Walsh
http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/10-ways-to-get-back-into-the-confidence-club-110731.html

Lack of confidence not only affects your state of mind but it also affects how others treat you. Self confidence is something that can be missing from early childhood and continue throughout all of adulthood.

When you fail to develop the self confidence you need, it can affect every aspect of your life, e.g. school, relationships, employment and social situations. However, it’s never too late to improve your confidence and become the person you’ve always wanted to be.

This article will discuss the problems associated with a low confidence level and start you on the journey to a better understanding of what steps to take to rebuild your confidence to levels that you never thought possible.

Shyness and fear are typical expressions of a confidence problem. Hiding from interactions with others and avoidance are symptoms which are correctable with time, effort and the knowledge needed to rebuild your self confidence.

The tools you need for improving your confidence are with you all the time: your mind and your emotions. Your mind will begin the process of control while eliminating emotions like shyness and fear will start you on a track that continues on for the rest of your life. Remember, how you see yourself is how others will see you and having confidence will earn the confidence and respect of others.

Often times our own thoughts are to blame for our low self-confidence. Positive thinking needs to win-out over negative thoughts to be able to build and govern your self confidence. In essence, thinking positive will help develop a stronger you.

Negative thoughts often lead to negative actions and even the possibility of unlawful actions. Whereas, positive thinking will lead to positive actions which then lead to more postive thinking and more positive actions. It is a very circular behavior pattern both negative and positive. With the proper positive mindset, you will exude confidence and success will not be far behind.

So often in today’s world we promote the idea of fitting in and being like the rest of the crowd, but we really should be talking about what makes each one of us unique and how important our individual contributions to society are. Comparing ourselves to others often leads to continued negative thinking and again the cycle continues forever downwards. Emotions like envy can be very destructive and can quickly tear apart years of confidence building only to have to start over.

Developing your self confidence is a continuous life long process. Everyone will have setbacks in their lives but how we react to those setbacks often distinguishes between success and failure. Other powerful techniques that you may work on are learning to use your inner filter, self-criticism and positive self-talk which can take you to the next level of building self confidence.

How to gain self confidence starts with identification and ends with behavioral change and results in a better you. Get started building a better you today!

Anthony Stai
http://www.articlesbase.com/non-fiction-articles/the-secrets-to-amazing-self-confidence-110799.html

I really want to have good self confidence and self esteem. I still have this belief of being an inconsequential or unimportant person. Any suggestions on how to build myself up?

This may sound odd, but hear me out.

Learn to develop a reinforcing voice.

There were times during my younger days where I would let the SMALLEST thing grind on my nerves. If someone ever bumped my shoulder in the street or looked at me funny, I'd either be wracked with feelings of low self-esteem or be riddled with anger. This would last for hours, churning away in my head to the point that it would put me in a bitter, spite-filled mood for the rest of the day.
Now these events that started this, were small and insignificant, so it was ridiculous that I would let it get to me. But as you can understand, this negative attitude made things even worse.

Fast forward for a bit. After reading a few books and listening to a lot of good constructive advice, I started listening to my concience a little more. I turned it into a nuturing, reinforcing voice whenever something bad happened. I'm sure you've done the same when you've talked yourself down in your own head. We all do it, but what you need to do, is use that to boost your confidence and really give yourself a strong pat on the back!

Whenever something get's you down, or you're feeling a little glum, turn those doubts the other wayt around. Tell youself that you're worrying over the little stuff, push yourself to find positivity in the moment. Be your own life-coach!

I have a good friend that has just asked me to help him build his low self confidence. Now i myself have been blessed with Abundant self confidence so i have no idea how to actually gain it. Any ideas?

Self confidence has nothing to do with building it up.

It is the absence of FEAR. Your friend is afraid perhaps of how he looks, what people will think of him/her. But you cannot control what other people think or do and some will dislike him/you/her whater but then there are others that will. You have to rationalise the fears.

I need books to read to learn how to have high self esteem, be confident, and be carefree? Do you know of any?

it's called "don't sweat the small stuff", but i can't remember the author. look it up on barnes and noble. com or one of the other bookstores. most places carry it. good luck!