I'm being appointed flight commander in jrotc
[meaning i have to command many people]
although, im very nervous about this whole thing.
How can i build the confidence I need?
yep, your right smitimb.

You were selected because you have something that training corps desires in a leader. Trust that that's a time honored practice and they picked the best person for the job. Make a cognitive assessment and tell yourself that you no longer need your peer's friendship or approval. Finally, hold yourself to a higher standard. Be the fittest, smartest, hardest working, most prudent cadet in your unit. Flight and JRTOC allude that you might be in a High School Air Force program? Am I right?

The word for confidence in Gaelic is muinín (pronounced muneen) and it is also the word for trust. The English dictionary definition of confidence is “firm trust,” “a feeling of reliance or certainty.” So, self-confidence is really about trusting yourself. The question then is how can you learn to trust yourself. The other important thing to note about self-confidence is that it can often be at a low ebb when we are in the midst of making important changes. At this point, our old certainties are beginning to fade away and our new life has not yet fully kicked in. What is given in this article are 10 ways to get it back when it looks like it has gone away.

1. Feedback from friends and family: Ask five people that you know and trust to give you a list of three things they really like about you. Either ask them to write them down, or write them down yourself in a special notebook. And then read and enjoy them!

2. Top 50 achievements: Write out a list of 50 things you are proud of achieving. It doesn’t matter how big or how small. If you can’t think of anything, begin with learning to walk, learning to talk and learning to write! Scientists are still baffled as to how small humans can learn these complex skills in relatively short periods of time! And no, NOT everybody can walk, talk and write!

3. Act “as if”: Ask yourself what would you do, what would you say, how you would ask if you were confidentâ??then, choose a situation and act confidently in that. Yes, I know you are not confident yet, but if you act “as if,” you will find that after a while you begin to feel confident.

4. Keep your promises: How do you know if someone is trustworthy? You know because trustworthy people do what they say and say what they do. And that includes promises to yourself. For example, are you the type of person who says “I’ll be there in 20 minutes,” knowing full well that it will take you an hour. What message is that sending to you and to others? Begin by keeping promises that you make. This is an ESSENTIAL part of building confidence in yourself. After all, if you can’t trust yourselfâ?¦

5. Take a chanceâ?¦be yourself: One thing I regularly hear from clients who have confidence issues is how they won’t do or say something because of the fear of being “stupid”â?¦only invariably to hear someone else come out with the same “stupid” idea and being respected for it. This week, give your honest opinion. Be respectful of others, but state your opinion calmly and clearly.

6. Do something you enjoy: Few things can give the rush of confidence that mastery can. By mastery, I mean doing something comfortably and competently. Think of the confidence you got when you learned to drive, when you got to grips with a computer program. Do something that you are good at–you must have something that you are good at, no matter how small it seems.

7. Get confidence buddies: Ask 2-3 people to be there when you need reassurance, when your confidence is shaky. Ask them to remind you that you have gotten out of this before. Ask them to remind you of all the good qualities that you have.

8. Help someone else: No matter how badly off you think you areâ?¦there is always someone who has worse problems than you. And, seeing this and getting things into perspective is a great way of building confidence. Look around you and find someone or an organization to volunteer with. If you can’t find one, give a gift to your favorite charity.

9. Gratitude: Look at what you do have. Know that even if some aspects of your life are not working out the way you wanted them…there are bound to be aspects that are working well..be thankful for those.

10. Be kind to yourself: After all, that is what you would do for a friend who is going through a confidence crisis.

Take Action!

Even if your confidence level is good, choose one of the steps outlined above and implement it this week. You could get a couple of confidence buddies, help someone else or really go mad and be yourself!

Anne Walsh
http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/10-ways-to-get-back-into-the-confidence-club-110731.html

Lack of confidence not only affects your state of mind but it also affects how others treat you. Self confidence is something that can be missing from early childhood and continue throughout all of adulthood.

When you fail to develop the self confidence you need, it can affect every aspect of your life, e.g. school, relationships, employment and social situations. However, it’s never too late to improve your confidence and become the person you’ve always wanted to be.

This article will discuss the problems associated with a low confidence level and start you on the journey to a better understanding of what steps to take to rebuild your confidence to levels that you never thought possible.

Shyness and fear are typical expressions of a confidence problem. Hiding from interactions with others and avoidance are symptoms which are correctable with time, effort and the knowledge needed to rebuild your self confidence.

The tools you need for improving your confidence are with you all the time: your mind and your emotions. Your mind will begin the process of control while eliminating emotions like shyness and fear will start you on a track that continues on for the rest of your life. Remember, how you see yourself is how others will see you and having confidence will earn the confidence and respect of others.

Often times our own thoughts are to blame for our low self-confidence. Positive thinking needs to win-out over negative thoughts to be able to build and govern your self confidence. In essence, thinking positive will help develop a stronger you.

Negative thoughts often lead to negative actions and even the possibility of unlawful actions. Whereas, positive thinking will lead to positive actions which then lead to more postive thinking and more positive actions. It is a very circular behavior pattern both negative and positive. With the proper positive mindset, you will exude confidence and success will not be far behind.

So often in today’s world we promote the idea of fitting in and being like the rest of the crowd, but we really should be talking about what makes each one of us unique and how important our individual contributions to society are. Comparing ourselves to others often leads to continued negative thinking and again the cycle continues forever downwards. Emotions like envy can be very destructive and can quickly tear apart years of confidence building only to have to start over.

Developing your self confidence is a continuous life long process. Everyone will have setbacks in their lives but how we react to those setbacks often distinguishes between success and failure. Other powerful techniques that you may work on are learning to use your inner filter, self-criticism and positive self-talk which can take you to the next level of building self confidence.

How to gain self confidence starts with identification and ends with behavioral change and results in a better you. Get started building a better you today!

Anthony Stai
http://www.articlesbase.com/non-fiction-articles/the-secrets-to-amazing-self-confidence-110799.html

I really want to have good self confidence and self esteem. I still have this belief of being an inconsequential or unimportant person. Any suggestions on how to build myself up?

This may sound odd, but hear me out.

Learn to develop a reinforcing voice.

There were times during my younger days where I would let the SMALLEST thing grind on my nerves. If someone ever bumped my shoulder in the street or looked at me funny, I'd either be wracked with feelings of low self-esteem or be riddled with anger. This would last for hours, churning away in my head to the point that it would put me in a bitter, spite-filled mood for the rest of the day.
Now these events that started this, were small and insignificant, so it was ridiculous that I would let it get to me. But as you can understand, this negative attitude made things even worse.

Fast forward for a bit. After reading a few books and listening to a lot of good constructive advice, I started listening to my concience a little more. I turned it into a nuturing, reinforcing voice whenever something bad happened. I'm sure you've done the same when you've talked yourself down in your own head. We all do it, but what you need to do, is use that to boost your confidence and really give yourself a strong pat on the back!

Whenever something get's you down, or you're feeling a little glum, turn those doubts the other wayt around. Tell youself that you're worrying over the little stuff, push yourself to find positivity in the moment. Be your own life-coach!