i think i’ve lost my confidence and self esteem for the past few months and i’m quite unhappy with myself. i used to be really happy with who i am and how i am and was real proud.since i’ve been breaking out really badly i dont feel pretty anymore. i feel that when people look at me they look at my pimples and how ugly i am.and it effected my lifestyle.i stop going out and i stop taking care of myself. i keep feeling unpretty and that i’m not good enough at anything. i feel scared to act like my old crazy self because i feel ugly and i think that people will think i’m a wierdo. i dont want attentions cos of my pimples.i act quite humble and i HATE it for not being able to be confident. please help me, i dont know what to do anymore.
Look, it doesn’t matter whether you have pimples or not. Everyone already knows you’re pretty, and everyone suffers with pimples, it’s a part of life. I bet that everyone thinks you are acting strange because you became quiet. Just be yourself, it doesn’t matter how you look, it’s the inside that counts. Besides, I bet everyone’s wondering where the Party-Princess has gone!
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I’ve had a really bad problem with self confidence since my early teens. It’s shockingly bad. With my friends and family I’m quite bubbly and talkative but with people I don’t know or when I’m large groups of people I just go to pieces.
It holds me back and it’s ruining my life, would anyone recommend self help books or is there groups or classes I’d be able to join or something like that.
I know I might always be shy but to be much less so would make me happy.
Deal with your past. I know shyness can be inherited or is just a part of your personality, but life experience can make you shy. Do you remember not being shy? what caused you to withdraw into yourself? just a few things to start with and work from there. I am the same way and I took acting classes and getting up and doing silly, but fun exercises with other people would break anyone out of your comfort zone. There are online groups that can help if you don’t like the therapist route. http://www.dailystrength.org/ has an online group that may help.
Good luck!
how do you build self-confidence and not care what other people think?
i’ve been doubting myself lately and am wondering why people would like me, and trying to impress people! how do i just be myself and not care what other peole think and just be happy with myself?
please help!
you have ahuge self-esteem prob, i used to think like that years ago, but you know what i did, was to tell myself every day on the mirror you are beautiful, you deserve to be happy, and i tried for a couple of days to be myself, to express my opinions instead, of being a follower, at first it was really hard, my friends thought whats up with her, but after a month or two, i found people becoming my followers, when ever anybody insults me, like he says you are this and you that (which i really am), i reply no im way better (which im not), so after lying on myself for months, i started to believe in me, and to believe the lies, and so did my friends, and now i have lived up to my lies, and im everything i told my friends im am…i even made peace with my self…
it will take alot of time, but the results are worth it, and FYI, i uesd to think im fat and ugly, but now i know that im fat and ugly, but i act the other way around, like im the most beautiful person ever…
but you have to put limits for yourself, dont get over the red line…
hope this helped you as it helped me…
How can I build up my self confidence around guys?
I am naturally quite a shy person… but I am also fully capable of being outgoing!
It’s weird, because I’m at ease with girls, but every time I talk to a guy, I just freeze up! :s
I would really like to know how I can make myself feel more relaxed and less self-conscious around guys.
Can anyone help me with this?
Thanks in advance.
Often when people get nervous around others, it is because they begin to imagine what others might be thinking about them. Nervous people are projecting their own doubts and insecurities onto others. The greatest thing you can begin doing for yourself right now is to build your self-esteem. When you become rock-solid comfortable with who you are, then you stop the self-comparisons and imagined opinions others have of you. This can take some time, but it is by far one of the most important things you’ll EVER do for yourself. Period. Every day, write down in your journal the things you did well or accomplished that day. Every day, 2 to 4 minutes a day, look in the mirror and say, "I love myself, I love myself, I love myself!" over and over and over. It’s not being egotistical, but instead, self-affirming. And it works. Realize that everyone is beautiful and talented and skilled in their own way, and take delight in your uniqueness. Don’t let others put you down. Fight back and know that you are a great person. Building self-esteem is critical to becoming less self-conscious.
Outside of that, practice talking to guys. Practice making friends with them first. Take the pressure off of you when you meet guys by just being friendly with them. Let down your guard and drop your expectations. Be yourself! You’ll find that, deep down, guys are more like girls than you think. They want to be liked and appreciated, even though their bravado might say otherwise. Practice, practice, practice!
