I have this girlfriend and we only do cheek.Now how do i move from this point or build more confidence to do this?
Just do it, nothing to lose.
Archive for October, 2009
I want to break out of my shy shell and become more outgoing so I know I need more confidence. What are good ways to build confidence? Also when I talk to new people I don’t have a very exciting life so I don’t really have much to talk about what are good ways to go about this?
Learn to tolerate the opinions of others without accepting them as facts & accept the facts when truth is proven! not everyone has the ability to do the above, so they shut-down,walk away or refuse to comment without realizing it’s normal to disagree………I think building confidence is a matter of being comfortable with yourself & those surrounding you—–generally speaking "we all have different thoughts, experiences & opinions’ …..just keep in mind when sharing your thoughts, experiences or opinions don’t expect others to react or view things your way (be open minded)…..in conclusion, once we recognize that not allowing harmful remarks dictate our growth, possibilities are endless!… HOPE THAT HELPS!
You could not be protected from everything. Childhood would almost always have left you with some emotional pain.
Even the best, most well intentioned parents could not watch over you. They were human. They made mistakes. There would be things outside family life that would have affected you.
Childhood is often a chaotic time that results in emotional pain you have to overcome to live a happy, healthy life now.
Such events leave deeper scars as you were still in your formative years, when your minds and bodies were still not fully developed, and thus more susceptible to damage.
Think of your minds and bodies as wet clay – a slight brush would have bent you out of shape. When the clay was dry and hardened, you would have been more resilient.
Overcoming the emotional pain
There are a few steps to overcoming emotional pain from your childhood that I have used to great effect.
The first step is to realise that these events, painful as they were and still are, can help you grow. They happened for a reason. I know that it is hard to swallow when you are in the depths of emotional pain, but please hear me out.
Maybe these events made you do a lot of things that you regret. Maybe they hurt you and you still have physical and mental scars. Maybe you spent years of your life in a lifestyle that was self-destructive. Maybe you carry around a lot of anger and depression.
So: still your emotions and ask yourself honestly. What is the lesson you learnt? Let’s say you were beaten by a classmate as a kid. The lesson you learnt might be to protect yourself. You might have developed street smarts as a necessity.
These street smarts may protect you from a life threatening attack in the future. Or perhaps they have already protected you – you felt bad about going to a certain place and you didn’t go. If you had went you might have gotten into trouble. You never know – there is no magical genie popping up to tell you “Well done! You have just avoided certain death by deciding to stay home and watch TV instead of going to that wild party.” You probably just felt bored.
What do you mean, benefits?
This might sound like a load of crock that I’m spouting, but everything truly does happen for a reason. I have had so many things that affected me deeply when it happened, and later I found out that it had actually been for my benefit.
Sometimes the benefit would simply be that it made you stronger. Just like a bodybuilder pushes against weights to build his muscles, these events have served as weights to build your emotional and mental strength. It might have catapulted you on a journey of self development. I suffered from much emotional pain, and that started me on a journey of self-help, and now I am stronger and happier than I would have ever been otherwise.
Now that you have learnt from your childhood events, the next step is to forgive and stop letting it affect you. This can take two forms: Overcoming the emotional pain; and finding out the patterns that it has ingrained in you subconsciously.
There’s more
What the first means is obvious. Stop the pain, the heartache. But what does the latter mean? Some things have left patterns and habits in you that don’t serve you well. Going back to the example of the childhood beating – it might have left you unable to make friends with new people, or it might have made you violent yourself. You might unknowingly sabotage your friendships and relationships. These patterns are so deeply ingrained that they require a lot of soul searching and self analysis to dig out. It is beyond the scope of this article; however, visit the website for more on this.
Overcoming the emotional pain is something that I have years of experience with, and can write about with confidence. It is a massive topic that requires more than a few articles to cover – you can also find more info on that on my website.
Albert Foong
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/overcoming-emotional-pain-from-childhood-135418.html
Every basketball team’s goal is to improve their skills or their game and play well. It is important that the team has confidence before they set foot on the floor or court. But how can the team acheive confidence? The answer is preparation. Through preparation, the team gains confidence. The team can prepare through practice. Practicing skills and team plays can make the team confident to face any situation that they should encounter in an actual game.
In making a basketball team play you need a diagram to represent the court or floor, some chips or a marker to place the positions of the players, who are given a specific number or color of chips. This is used to explain the flow of the play so the team players know how to act or where to go during specific team plays. Extensive knowledge of the game itself, tactics and rules is also essential. In order to facilitate the discussion, everyone concerned should bear in mind that the strong side means that it is the side of the court where the basketball is and the weaker side is the one without the basketball.
This is where names such as John Stockton, Jason Kidd and Steve Nash come into play. These are some of the most skilled basketball players in terms of playmaking. While the coach is in charge of teaching how plays should be made,the point guard has the primary task to make sure that these are properly executed during the game.
Offensive Plays are used when the team has the possession of the ball. The focus of this play is to score. Plays of this kind increase the chances of the players, such as the point guard, to make the basket and score. Examples of this play are 1-3-1 offensive plays, 1-4 formation offensive plays, zone formation offensive plays, triangle offense formation and man to man offense.
The offensive team that will do these offensive plays is composed of five players with corresponding titles and numbers: The point guard (1), the shooting guard (2), the forward guard (3), the power guard (4) and the center (5). The point guard directs the offensive play on the court. The shooting guard is the best outside shooter and usually takes the shot that allows the basketball to make the basket, he should know the right timing for scoring. The small forward guard moves quickly and effectively and keeps the ball away from the defensive team. They can also drive to take a shot or do jump shots anywhere. The power forward is the best inside shooter, which shoots well from underneath the basket or on its corners. The center is the tallest member of the team and does the rebounds and plays with his back almost facing the basket all the time.
Defensive plays are used by the team when they prevent the ball from making the basket by guarding the basket themselves and the players as well so that scoring won’t be successful. The focus of this play is to prevent the other team from scoring by trying to steal the ball or disrupting the flow of play of the team that has ball possession.
Plays of this kind puts pressure on the players who have ball possession making them vulnerable. The defending team players use this situation to their advantage and stop the ball from making it to the basket or making it possible to steal the ball from their hands. Examples of this play are the zone defense and the 2-3 zone defense.
Team players should possess characteristics when they are on the defensive play. Quickness is a quality that can be applied to the hands and feet. Swift movements are necessary to help defensive steal the ball from the offensive team. Strong legs can be helpful in doing repetitive quick jumps. Focus on the game is necessary and they should always be aware since they will read and observe the offensive play so they can use it to their advantage.
This will help the defensive team members to react quickly and appropriately. Defensive team members should be flexible and able to do different kinds of defensive plays depending on the situation.
They should be able to apply defensive skills on both weak and strong sides of the court. Understanding of the strategies and concepts of the game helps them make right decisions based on the situation. Good communication is essential for teamwork because if they work together on the floor, the offensive team will have a difficult time scoring.
Practicing the basic basketball skills as well as the offensive and defensive plays helps a team prepare for a game. When you are prepared to face the battle during a basketball game, worries can be set aside and confidence is gained. These are the secrets to playing a good game and playing it right. Winning and being a champion is possible if these things are kept in mind.
Jason Richards
http://www.articlesbase.com/basketball-articles/making-the-right-plays-in-basketball-481133.html
