i want to build self confidence and be able to stand up for myself and feel good about myself. like this always happens to me whenever i see another person thats really pretty i always think im not pretty anymore like i would walk into somewere and feel gorgues until i see someone else….and i dnt wanna feel like that anymore….how can i do that without going to a counsler or a theripist<personal issiues)
I honestly wouldn't strive to be like someone you envy. That would make you really boring, just like everyone else.
Find a style that appeals both to you and other people and strive to make "that" as best as it can be. Then you please yourself and others.
Strive to make yourself happy first, not others. Because once you're happy, others around you notice that and become happy for you.
And if it's not specifically materialistic things, then focus on yourself in general, strengthen yourself internally, make sure you stand up for what you believe in. If they don't like it, then just say to yourself, "That's life. It happens. Not everyone in the world is going to love me."
Also make sure you assert yourself and show that you believe what you believe about any matter, school, people, anything. When you show them that your opinion counts too, then it no longer becomes whether or not someone has a better personality, popularity status, or look than you. It then turns into respect. And respect is the main thing. If people respect you, then it doesn't matter whether or not someone thinks someone else is better than you because you know you're accepted by them and have their respect. You know they think highly of you and that's all you need. Even the people you are envious of will respect you.
#1 by Queeny queen Q on May 30th, 2009
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omg, omg, i feel the same way too.
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#2 by Carly M on May 30th, 2009
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The best way to build confidence is too…
IMPRESS YOURSELF!
Do something your good at, get a wicked good hair cut, learn to play the guitar, donate to charity, whatever it is that is going to make YOU feel good about YOU then do it, and lots of it!!!!
I don't always feel pretty and I think we've all walked into a party feeling like the ugly duckling, but these girls have problems just like you, and, well…the grass is always greener on the other side.
Try not to be jealous of others so much, its such a waste of time!
XOXOXOX
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#3 by Missy on May 30th, 2009
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it just takes time, i think it's something to do with growing up. i used to feel the same way but then suddently it just stopped. just know you are who you are and no matter who and what that will never change. and also, please don't ever post an "am i pretty" bulletin, people will rip you for the hell of it.
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#4 by Chelly on May 30th, 2009
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ignore any negative comments.
the reason you are thinking negatively about yourself might be because your stressed..try yoga.
treat yourself with respect, and others will follow.
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#5 by dylanaaaa on May 30th, 2009
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I honestly wouldn't strive to be like someone you envy. That would make you really boring, just like everyone else.
Find a style that appeals both to you and other people and strive to make "that" as best as it can be. Then you please yourself and others.
Strive to make yourself happy first, not others. Because once you're happy, others around you notice that and become happy for you.
And if it's not specifically materialistic things, then focus on yourself in general, strengthen yourself internally, make sure you stand up for what you believe in. If they don't like it, then just say to yourself, "That's life. It happens. Not everyone in the world is going to love me."
Also make sure you assert yourself and show that you believe what you believe about any matter, school, people, anything. When you show them that your opinion counts too, then it no longer becomes whether or not someone has a better personality, popularity status, or look than you. It then turns into respect. And respect is the main thing. If people respect you, then it doesn't matter whether or not someone thinks someone else is better than you because you know you're accepted by them and have their respect. You know they think highly of you and that's all you need. Even the people you are envious of will respect you.
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#6 by me on May 30th, 2009
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learn to appreciate ur self and make urself look and feel pretty
i used o have no self confidence but now no one can bring me down
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#7 by dancinintx2011 on May 30th, 2009
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Everyone is made to have their own type of beauty, yours just might be different from the girls you are comparing yourself to. Try picking up a non-competitive sport or activity, such as yoga, horse-back riding, cooking, etc. These will help you to have fun and build skills while not comparing yourself to others. It's ok to think someone else is pretty, but don't compare yourself just make the statement. Try taking speech at school or getting involved in community theater, both will teach you speaking skills that will automatically make you feel more confident.
I hope that I helped. When finding new things to do stay away from the competitve ones that encourage your habits of comparing yourself. This will only fuel the fire. Be confident and make a list of things you like about yourself. When you feel insecure remember this list or take a look at it to remember who you really are. Beauty is not all about looks, its about who you are.
Psa. 8:3-5 — You have great value to God. The next time you question your worth as a person, remember that God considers you highly valuable. We have great worth because we bear the stamp of the Creator. Because God has already declared how valuable we are to Him, we can be set free from feelings of worthlessness.
Those are some Bible notes I found to help you. The best thing you can do is remember what that says, that everyone is equal in God's eyes and made in His image. Don't doubt God's creation!
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#8 by max_rochny on May 30th, 2009
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Punj,, start each day and be happy who you are, try to send a smile or good vibe to someone,and tell yourself that you will be someone. Also a bit of exercise each day keeps the blood running. You owe it to yourself. I hope this helps you , happy 2008, MAX
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#9 by KimerzX on May 30th, 2009
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Honey;
All I have to say is "Welcome to The World Of Women"….seriously I don't think there is anyone out there that hasn't gone through these moments of struggle in their lives…it is hard..yes very hard…and I guess YOU can only be the person to FIND your own self…Anyone can give you beautiful advise, and fill your head with awesome philosophies…but in the end, you are the one to make discoveries about yourself that you never even thought off…and then start to like yourself, and accept yourself for who you truly are…HONESTLY..some of us LOSE ourselves in life at least once…It is difficult to put back the pieces and feel confident again, built our self-esteem and independence higher and higher within time…
I guess any woman on this beautiful planet earth, will start off by saying that you can STOP "Comparing Yourself To Others" because in the end you are definitely crowded with things you aren't familiar with, because you are trying so desperately hard to "Fit In and be Alike" that you don't realize or step back and wonder that maybe "YOU WERE BORN TO STAND OUT" and be the one to help prepare other young ladies to find their own light, within themselves, and learn how to just see it and SHINE on their own….
Surround yourself with positive things, thinking, and people..don't ever underestimate yourself, sweetie…because THE POWER BELONGS TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN THE BEAUTY OF THEIR DREAMS…"GOD" Bless You…walk in the fire with Faith, Patience and Kindness…then "GOD" might just open windows to your heart that will enable you to SEE the TRUE and REAL Girl LOOKING back at You in a Mirror…
Much Love,
*Kim*
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#10 by Ebony Arden on May 30th, 2009
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You sound just like me a year ago, I was so depressed about my looks that I nearly smashed a mirror, I would cry myself to sleep. God it was awful. I even posted a question on Yahoo Answers about it. I got answers basically saying it was only something I could do and at the time I thought, "Not very much help" but looking back, they were right. I realised that you can't change yourself, you can only enhance what you have already. Try and find positives for all the negatives you have about yourself, for example – I used to feel short because I was 4'5 (I've grown an inch) but I realised that unless I was planning on being a model, why would I want to be super tall?
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