I don’t take compliments very well and handle tend to make them awkward. I think people can see that I’m not very confident and I want to give off the image that I’m comfortable with myself. Please help…I’ve been dealing with this for far too long!
You’ve kind of missed the train there. Childhood and teen years are the best time to build up self-confidence.
First thing you need to do is practice smiling. Not sheepish smiles, but confident, comfortable smiles. Practice in front of the mirror. A good smile is a great response to almost any situation. When receiving compliments, smile that smile and say "Thank you". Don’t gush or make self-deprecating comments (self-deprecating works only if you’re already full of confidence in yourself, like, say, Hugh Grant).
Then, work on your posture. Stand straight, ramrod straight. A good posture suggests confidence and competence. Again, practice in front of the mirror.
What all these stuff do, is that they project a positive image of yourself to others. When that happens, others will treat you positively as well. That does wonders for your self-confidence.
There are many other little things that you can do. Best to read up on some good self-help books. Go to the library and check out Anthony Robbins.
#1 by cookie monster on July 30th, 2009
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I’m having the same problem too. everytime i get i compliment i deny it. What i am trying to do is give people compliments and see how they react, and then the next time i get a compliment, i will react that way to build more confidence in myself.
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#2 by DavidLenn on July 30th, 2009
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You’ve kind of missed the train there. Childhood and teen years are the best time to build up self-confidence.
First thing you need to do is practice smiling. Not sheepish smiles, but confident, comfortable smiles. Practice in front of the mirror. A good smile is a great response to almost any situation. When receiving compliments, smile that smile and say "Thank you". Don’t gush or make self-deprecating comments (self-deprecating works only if you’re already full of confidence in yourself, like, say, Hugh Grant).
Then, work on your posture. Stand straight, ramrod straight. A good posture suggests confidence and competence. Again, practice in front of the mirror.
What all these stuff do, is that they project a positive image of yourself to others. When that happens, others will treat you positively as well. That does wonders for your self-confidence.
There are many other little things that you can do. Best to read up on some good self-help books. Go to the library and check out Anthony Robbins.
References :