Whenever I am with a group I’m real nice, and people like me for who I am. However, I’m never the talkative or outgoing person. I usually don’t contribute to the conversation.
Sometimes I look like I’m the confused one in a group, cause I never add anything. The reason is, I’m afraid people will judge me in a terrible way, so I keep shut.
How do you get more self confidence to not care what others think about you all the time?
Is it the lack of self-confidence or are you just shy? Is this in front of girls or just friends? I use to be in the same boat sort of, but I eventually opened up and gave my opinion/input on things, and just went along with it, like laugh/agree/disagree about something and make a joke out of it. When it comes down to it, be yourself, don’t just say something to say it! When a conversation comes around, become interested or should I say interesting…
But self-confidence does not become fully build overnight…work at it…
#1 by Wavy on November 4th, 2009
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Go to Walmart. Walk about halfway into the store, take a left, go past the clothes and electronics. Take a right just after the pillows. Towards the back wall on a shelf at the left should be a box of life. Buy 3 of them, just in case you waste another life. Then you should be good to go!
They don’t cost too much, so don’t worry about price.
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#2 by Shanks on November 4th, 2009
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Fake It Until You Make It
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#3 by <3 on November 4th, 2009
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lol
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#4 by Mad V on November 4th, 2009
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yea life boxes are running pretty cheap these days…
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#5 by Kris on November 4th, 2009
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I have the same problem sometimes. I try to say something, because I know we all have are good points, and are bad points. I never really liked to answer in class because of this, but a lot of people are actually cool, there are a couple who will laugh at you if you make a mistake, but that is because they have low self esteem. Just try answering a little questions at a time.
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#6 by a guy thats it on November 4th, 2009
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get drunk then you wont think about anything XD
ummm your strongest point is being in a group
so talk to them go somewhere at night that will
help you be more confident and then go in smaller and smaller
groups until you go with a "friend" if ya know what i mean *wink*
most importantly BE YOURSELF!
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#7 by Scarab on November 4th, 2009
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try and contribute when there is a topic that you know like the back of your hand, but don’t go overboard in detail. They’ll see that you know what you’re talking about, you get more confidence and then you can try going out of your depth a bit =]
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I have the same problem and this method has worked for me
#8 by Lexi C on November 4th, 2009
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Well one way that builds self confidence is by exercising…I know this may sound weird but by exercising, you are becoming more healthier and developing muscles…You then feel good about yourself…the key to confidence is all about how you feel about yourself…Now that you are confidence in your looks, just be yourself…It doesn’t matter what people think about you cause their opinion, in the long run, doesn’t even matter…Only your opinion matters…And also, if you give off the vibe that you are confident in yourself, others will feel the same vibe and won’t be quick to judge you…Just think to yourself "You’re the man!" and others will believe it too
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#9 by Kitty on November 4th, 2009
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There’s a very simple solution to this, for you see I used to have the same problem. =D
Whenever you’re about to go out with people (friends, grandma, strangers etc.) you drink one or two energy drinks. And then you’ll find you won’t be ABLE to feel the way you do because you won’t care at all.
Try it, what have you got to lose? =D No one has dignity anymore, don’t worry.
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Red bull, Bump, No Fear, Bawls (Original), Rock star, Full Throttle, Pie.
#10 by Anton R on November 4th, 2009
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Don’t worry about it. So you’re not talkative or outgoing, that’s fine. If people like you for who you are, you can’t ask much more. Probably you’re not quiet because you’re afraid people will judge you, you’re quiet because that’s how you are. But that’s fine. As for confidence, it usually increases with age. If you’re not happy with yourself now, in ten years time you’ll probably be a pretty different person.
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#11 by John on November 4th, 2009
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Is it the lack of self-confidence or are you just shy? Is this in front of girls or just friends? I use to be in the same boat sort of, but I eventually opened up and gave my opinion/input on things, and just went along with it, like laugh/agree/disagree about something and make a joke out of it. When it comes down to it, be yourself, don’t just say something to say it! When a conversation comes around, become interested or should I say interesting…
But self-confidence does not become fully build overnight…work at it…
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#12 by Techfreak7 on November 4th, 2009
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Just get out, be active get more new experiences get in touch with other people.If you are active you gain experiences and you have something to talk about(your experiences) and add to conversations .In addition through your activities you learn how to interact with people as you collaborate with them.
So go learn a sport
—–go to the gym
——go swimming….
GET ACTIVE!——->Build Your Self Confidence
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#13 by john smith on November 4th, 2009
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Ah, I have the same problem as you…
Well first, if you are not confident about your knowledge then go online a check for random info so you can have a lot of knowledge.
Second, when people make fun of you act with it. What I mean is if someone says " your lame" say "That’s what she said!" I’m kidding, say things sarcastically like " Oh yes…I am very lame….oh no, what am I to do?"
third, say what you think, if you don’t try then you will never know the outcome. If the group are a group of jerks then leave, you don’t need to spend time with jerks. ( "If you do what you did, you get what you got")
Really, all you can do is just join in the convo and whatever happens, happens. Learning party jokes is a plus and believe in yourself. Don’t go over board with confidence though, it is annoying. Also good luck bro and go on youtube..com and learn how to loosen up. I need to loosen up as well.
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#14 by Everbody Loves Kung Fu Naki on November 4th, 2009
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You gotta just say things without thinking about anything else whatsoever and when people judge you just bite back by using one of their qualities or point of views againist them with some sort of insult. That’s what I do and I don’t care what others think. I got lots of opinions and If you disagree, I don’t give a shit. I learned how to do this from my older brother. Hope it helps.
P.S. If you have truely good friends they won’t care what you think and they’ll laugh if you say something stupid and let you laugh if they do something stupid (has to be both).
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#15 by Elizabeth L on November 4th, 2009
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same here. I’m the one who always the one who just nods my head. . I just never know what to say! and it is hard because when I do say something I’m not confident and idk its dumb. So I’m not the person to give advise.. but all I can say is speak out whats on your mind. that is what everyone else is doing right?
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#16 by Rick on November 4th, 2009
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2 things that helped me be more confident.
1. Write down the good and bad thing about yourself, but focus on the good things and praise yourself DAILY
2. ACT CONFIDENT. When you act confident, you become confident(TRUE)
Why do you care, like who are those people to judge you.ill bet they no better than you are, so really its a waste of time to care about their opinions. SCREW EM. know you are worthy
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