how do you build self-confidence and not care what other people think?
i’ve been doubting myself lately and am wondering why people would like me, and trying to impress people! how do i just be myself and not care what other peole think and just be happy with myself?
please help!
you have ahuge self-esteem prob, i used to think like that years ago, but you know what i did, was to tell myself every day on the mirror you are beautiful, you deserve to be happy, and i tried for a couple of days to be myself, to express my opinions instead, of being a follower, at first it was really hard, my friends thought whats up with her, but after a month or two, i found people becoming my followers, when ever anybody insults me, like he says you are this and you that (which i really am), i reply no im way better (which im not), so after lying on myself for months, i started to believe in me, and to believe the lies, and so did my friends, and now i have lived up to my lies, and im everything i told my friends im am…i even made peace with my self…
it will take alot of time, but the results are worth it, and FYI, i uesd to think im fat and ugly, but now i know that im fat and ugly, but i act the other way around, like im the most beautiful person ever…
but you have to put limits for yourself, dont get over the red line…
hope this helped you as it helped me…
#1 by Amy Jo on October 28th, 2009
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I had the same problem. When you get older, you realize that there are more important things in life then worrying about what other people think of you. It takes time but everybody is different and just take one day at a time and remember that you are your own special person and deserve the best in life. If someone doesn’t like you that is their choice then move on to better things. Don’t worry you won’t feel this way forever.
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#2 by amanya47 on October 28th, 2009
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you have ahuge self-esteem prob, i used to think like that years ago, but you know what i did, was to tell myself every day on the mirror you are beautiful, you deserve to be happy, and i tried for a couple of days to be myself, to express my opinions instead, of being a follower, at first it was really hard, my friends thought whats up with her, but after a month or two, i found people becoming my followers, when ever anybody insults me, like he says you are this and you that (which i really am), i reply no im way better (which im not), so after lying on myself for months, i started to believe in me, and to believe the lies, and so did my friends, and now i have lived up to my lies, and im everything i told my friends im am…i even made peace with my self…
it will take alot of time, but the results are worth it, and FYI, i uesd to think im fat and ugly, but now i know that im fat and ugly, but i act the other way around, like im the most beautiful person ever…
but you have to put limits for yourself, dont get over the red line…
hope this helped you as it helped me…
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#3 by Ego Fatigo on October 28th, 2009
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Hi
It’s good that you recognise that you have this problem. Congratulations. Now how to fix this. Well… it’s not easy, and it does take time, but you just have to NOT worry about what people think of you. Be yourself – you are unique, with unique talents – and enjoy being who you are.
Having life experiences – aka living – will definitely help. You’ll do things that other people haven’t, and you’ll come across as interesting because of this.
But this is not easy.
It will take time.
Ps Don’t try and impress people. That’s never clever.
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http://www.selfhelpcollective.com/building-self-confidence.html