In this age of competition a student has to be very intelligent right from his childhood. In addition to be good in his academics, he requires special skills to establish his identity in this vast unfamiliar land where he has to traverse along.

To endure this prolonged journey of life, one has to develop self-confidence from his infancy. There is a vast difference between confidence and self-confidence. The first lead to the victory on not always being right but also not getting fear to be wrong, and the second is the competence over the complex and dangerous deeds by winning self. Self- confidence is related to your self worth and your value. Confidence is a mental process that arises from considering the capacity, if a person or thing is capable of something. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself considering a responsibility of commitment and result.

We can never predict what kind of life we are going to have or what circumstances can make us crippled. In order to overcome the unwanted hurdles of our life we need to develop strong self- confidence and clear vision. We should always rise with an appetite to know our inadequacies and zeal for problem solving. We are never born with confidence from our birth as it is well said, “Rome was not built in one day”, and so is the confidence.

The very first step towards success is to stop obsessing about what others think of you. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior–they can only do so if you let them room for criticism. Who so ever had tried to do something different must have chased the hard road to toil and thus you can look more confident in long run. This will only be possible when we establish true self-confidence and must concentrate on small steps towards success and forget about the failures and the negatives in our life. So just chill yourself and sincerely target yourself towards destination and hold your head high and stand tall.

To build self confidence, we first need to be regular in our deeds and we should divide our tasks into small steps as in the story “the hare and the tortoise” we all have seen how impossible mission was made possible by the tortoise; the steps were small but the theme was consistency.

The strongest single factor in prosperity of consciousness is self-evaluation: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it. Self-confidence is the most important factor in our life. It can be multiplied by feeling good, taking responsibility and being accountable to failures. Today we all have made a veil around us and never try to look beyond it and unnecessarily pretend our self with false and negative images. We do generally show that we are over burdened with work and the rest are enjoying the gala days. We need to learn the acceptance of our duty and responsibility and rather than transferring it on the shoulder of others we start accepting to say, “I am responsible ”.

The lamp of faith within us should always get the oil of consistency and there should be no dark clouds of disappointment. The major problem of our failure is that, we keep thinking what we have done is right and we don’t critically express ourselves, where we went wrong. If we really want to conquer diffidence, then we need to defeat greed, hatred and jealousy, as these evils never let us pursue right path in our life.

Everyone is born with strength and weaknesses. We can develop and excel our-self according to our environment and situation by sticking to our principles and we have to be generous enough to accept our failures positively and try to be adventurous enough to define our aim. Trust yourself, know yourself better than you think, stop thinking what is not with you and try chasing what is great in you that others don’t have. The day you start thinking so you’re moving towards creation of self-confidence.

If we look at some great men who achieved success in their life, it is their self-confidence, determination and consistency in their thoughts and achievements. A great man is great in himself and what is in him to be great is his self-confidence. Self –confidence teaches us to dream and leads to attain the goal disregarding; the hurdles come across in our life.

Personalities like Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill etc has great mission and it is their self-confidence helped to overcome the problems and attain what they wanted. However you are rich, intelligent and strong, without self-confident you will not cross the tunnel and perhaps you may stand where you stood.

Steps to master Self-Confidence.

•  Tracking inadequacies & Reframing Failures: It is failure that pushes people into depression and insecurities. Find out your failures and start working on it. Have patience and faith within you and take the life the way it comes and be positive.

•  Self Determination : Know your strengths, it alone will do miracles that you even never think off. Learn to evaluate yourself independently. Stronger sense of self will give you a platform and will prevent you from giving your personal power away to others.

•  Lessons from past victories : Learn from your past mistakes, they are lessons for you and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future. “Treasure every moment! Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present”!

•  Self Trust: Believe in the best, “Win yourself before winning others”. It needs right acumen, true and sincere approach towards life and consistent commitment towards goal.

Persistence: Persistence is the fifth and final pillar of self-discipline. Persistence allows us to keep taking action even when we don’t feel motivated. So we should always have a zeal for persistence in order to remain in action.

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Now, the attorney-turned-career coach, speaker and Fortune 500 trainer draws on his experiences in the IDF to instruct corporate executives and professionals in the finer points of leadership, stress management and personal growth.

Following his military service, Schiller attended University of California Hastings College of the Law. After graduation, he joined the Silicon Valley office of Weil, Gotshal & Manges, a prominent international law firm.

“Silicon Valley is one of the most high-pressure business environments in the world,” says Schiller. “My work in mergers and acquisitions gave me a unique opportunity to observe a frazzled corporate culture ripe for the abilities every IDF soldier masters from the inside out.

Combat Confidence, Schiller stresses, is not about killing, fighting or anger. “It’s about clarity, focus, empowerment and passion,” he says. “It’s about eliminating the stress, ambiguity and self-limiting talk that stands in the way of living a more balanced and productive life and career.”

In conjunction with speaking, corporate training and seminars, Schiller is an executive coaching consultant to clients all over the U.S. and abroad with whom he conducts one-on-one sessions either in person or by telephone. He also has live teleclasses, where participants dial into a conference line, including his free 60-minute Combat Confidence class. Other classes meet weekly for up to eight sessions.

“Whether by phone or in person,” says Schiller, “my focus as an executive coaching consultant is to help clients create meaningful change in a person’s their lives and provide a tangible plan of action for achieving positive results. If you dread the thought of going back to work on Monday, then you will definitely benefit from Combat Confidence,” says Schiller.

“You’ll also benefit if you’ve been in the same job for more than two years and you are still not experiencing the success and recognition you deserve.”

The self esteem which evolves on the inside is usually reflected on the outside. Your internal self worth which consists of your self-esteem, self confidence and self respect will become your external net worth. It is a matter of pride in who you are and the mentor you can be.

Compare an individual with strong self esteem and high net worth to another with weak one and low net worth. What are the obvious differences? Does self esteem play a major role? Of course, it does. It is the essence of a personality. Strong self esteem produces confidence in oneself.

Is it possible that positive self esteem is the basis for a celebrated mindset? A mindset is a certain attitude which may draw from either a positive or negative self esteem. Each individual attitude is the result of particular beliefs. What you believe to be true about yourself usually generates equivalent self confidence and self respect.

On a scale of 0 – 10 (low to high self esteem), how would you rate your level of self confidence and self respect? Calculate the average level of the three senses of worth? The conclusion is your self worth which ultimately determines your level of net worth as it pertains to business.

Please note there are ways to improve your self confidence and therefore, increase your level of self worth. I believe we all came into this world at a level ten self confidence. We were equal human beings regardless of race, religion, colour, nationality, sex, title or role.

However, our exposure to the outside world – family, religion, education, politics, etc. permits outside influences to over shadow our true self confidence. We have fashioned our own fears, limitations and boundaries on what we experience, see and hear.

Overtime our personal perceptions have been altered. Our self esteem is diminished and our self worth suddenly has limitations.

We are smart, educated adults and should be able to distinguish between fact and fiction. We need to go back and review our values as it relates to self esteem. We need to remove some of the baggage that has been holding us back, lowering our self-esteem, self confidence and self respect. We need to boost our self confidence by acknowledging our worth and managing our emotions. Our self confidence portrays our values and affects the choices we make.

Simply by changing our internal thinking, we can reclaim our self-esteem, self confidence and self respect and strive for a level ten self esteem as our standard. This is a level of self esteem from which to begin not end.

It is a known fact that if we don’t believe in ourselves, no one else will either. How we feel about ourselves, our self esteem, is reflected in our daily conversations, our body language and our abilities. We are responsible for our destiny and anything is possible with high quality self esteem.

There are ways to boost your self confidence. Begin by setting attainable goals for yourself. Make your dreams a reality. Accept support and encouragement from others. Learn from your mistakes.

It won’t take long before your self esteem is back to ten or more. Realistically, self respect is also the difference between success and failure. We all want success and therefore, we must do whatever it takes to boost our self esteem daily.

What results are you looking for? What actions must you take? What type of self confidence do you need to experience self worth?

You must believe in yourself – the most important person in the world. You are the all inclusive package of self esteem, self confidence and self respect. All three attributes equal your self worth and in turn, your self worth will translate externally into your net worth.

Where do you rate your self esteem? What are you worth?

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