I feel insecure and like a doormat.I’ve been analyzed and criticized for 20 years.I’ve been made to feel stupid.How do you rebuild your confidence and self-esteem?
·The loss of self-esteem has affected many people due to different unhappy events that triggered sadness in their lives
·Divorce is one of the life changing experiences that can bring much grief and depression.
·The first step is to know whom you can count on and whom you can’t.
·Once you have found support and strength, you will feel the need to make some drastic changes.
·If you have never had short hair, you may want to try it.
·You don’t have to be someone that you aren’t.
·One Small Step to Take Control, Turn Life Around and Live Again
oIt is understandable for anyone to suffer from a lack of confidence at some point in his or her life.
oMaybe a long-term relationship breakdown has eroded the feeling of self worth, or confidence might have been crushed by a health problem.
oMost people want to find a way out of the rut they are in, and very often they know what needs to be done, but already suffering from a lack of confidence the journey back to a better life, can seem too monumental to undertake.
· Take Control and Change your life
oNo matter how insignificant it may seem, achieving the smallest goal will start to rebuild confidence and help regain self-esteem.
oIf someone can carry out a small task successfully, it is the start of being able to turn life around.
oJohn Francome, the famous British jockey, known for his ability to squeeze everything from a horse, once said that the first time a thoroughbred goes to the track, it is essential not to drive it too hard to the finish or the horse will associate the racecourse with a negative experience.
oLikewise, if a person takes on a task that is too hard, even if they succeed the first time, the sheer effort involved would deter them from further attempts.
·Build Confidence, Self Esteem and Live Again
oWhatever task a person chooses, the undertaking of it only has one purpose.
oIt could be as simple washing the car rather than taking it to the car wash.
oYou will have successfully carried out a task of your own choice, and will have succeeded in achieving a goal.
oThe reason for doing so is to train the mind to expect success.
oAchieving results in small tasks first, is a vital process to building enough confidence to positively undertake more major goals.
oIf a person can succeed in a small goal, then take on another, and another, all the time confidence is growing.
oSlowly but surely learn to live again – take one small step to take control and turn your life around.
·Nobody can hurt you without your consent
oThere are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard.
oThere can be many reasons that your self-confidence is hurt.
·Look at the brighter side
oIf you have been laid off, it would be okay to feel bad about it for a day or two but not more than that.
·Stop comparing yourself with other people
oWhen we have a problem we always question God – “Oh, God, why me?”
·Are you standing in your own way
oYou will notice that shadows are caused when we stand in the path of sunshine.
·Get started on creating an Action Plan to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem.
·Using the word action is laying the groundwork for getting past the planning stage and starting of with an action.
·The reasons for your low self-esteem could be many things how you were raised, events in your life where you got harshly treated, not being happy with your appearance too fat too skinny etc.
·Create an action plan to rebuild your self-esteem
o1) Define what most causes you to have this low opinion of yourself.
§Write it down.
o2) Start an Action – You want to change your mindset from can’t to can.
§It’s meeting head on what the cause of your low self-esteem is.
§Now when creating an action it does not have to be a major step all at once.
§The point is without taking some kind of action a plan is worthless.
o3) Pat yourself on the back for even the smallest Action.
§Remember action creates reaction when your family, friends, co workers whomever sees the new you the positive feed back will amaze you.
§So it’s time for ACTION
#1 by Trick C on August 23rd, 2009
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I know it’s tough, man. I’ve been there too. There is a movie called "Fight Club". Watch it a couple of times, absorb its message and then come back and thank me by giving me 10 Points for the answer. Good Luck.
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#2 by cinged_wings on August 23rd, 2009
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·The loss of self-esteem has affected many people due to different unhappy events that triggered sadness in their lives
·Divorce is one of the life changing experiences that can bring much grief and depression.
·The first step is to know whom you can count on and whom you can’t.
·Once you have found support and strength, you will feel the need to make some drastic changes.
·If you have never had short hair, you may want to try it.
·You don’t have to be someone that you aren’t.
·One Small Step to Take Control, Turn Life Around and Live Again
oIt is understandable for anyone to suffer from a lack of confidence at some point in his or her life.
oMaybe a long-term relationship breakdown has eroded the feeling of self worth, or confidence might have been crushed by a health problem.
oMost people want to find a way out of the rut they are in, and very often they know what needs to be done, but already suffering from a lack of confidence the journey back to a better life, can seem too monumental to undertake.
· Take Control and Change your life
oNo matter how insignificant it may seem, achieving the smallest goal will start to rebuild confidence and help regain self-esteem.
oIf someone can carry out a small task successfully, it is the start of being able to turn life around.
oJohn Francome, the famous British jockey, known for his ability to squeeze everything from a horse, once said that the first time a thoroughbred goes to the track, it is essential not to drive it too hard to the finish or the horse will associate the racecourse with a negative experience.
oLikewise, if a person takes on a task that is too hard, even if they succeed the first time, the sheer effort involved would deter them from further attempts.
·Build Confidence, Self Esteem and Live Again
oWhatever task a person chooses, the undertaking of it only has one purpose.
oIt could be as simple washing the car rather than taking it to the car wash.
oYou will have successfully carried out a task of your own choice, and will have succeeded in achieving a goal.
oThe reason for doing so is to train the mind to expect success.
oAchieving results in small tasks first, is a vital process to building enough confidence to positively undertake more major goals.
oIf a person can succeed in a small goal, then take on another, and another, all the time confidence is growing.
oSlowly but surely learn to live again – take one small step to take control and turn your life around.
·Nobody can hurt you without your consent
oThere are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard.
oThere can be many reasons that your self-confidence is hurt.
·Look at the brighter side
oIf you have been laid off, it would be okay to feel bad about it for a day or two but not more than that.
·Stop comparing yourself with other people
oWhen we have a problem we always question God – “Oh, God, why me?”
·Are you standing in your own way
oYou will notice that shadows are caused when we stand in the path of sunshine.
·Get started on creating an Action Plan to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem.
·Using the word action is laying the groundwork for getting past the planning stage and starting of with an action.
·The reasons for your low self-esteem could be many things how you were raised, events in your life where you got harshly treated, not being happy with your appearance too fat too skinny etc.
·Create an action plan to rebuild your self-esteem
o1) Define what most causes you to have this low opinion of yourself.
§Write it down.
o2) Start an Action – You want to change your mindset from can’t to can.
§It’s meeting head on what the cause of your low self-esteem is.
§Now when creating an action it does not have to be a major step all at once.
§The point is without taking some kind of action a plan is worthless.
o3) Pat yourself on the back for even the smallest Action.
§Remember action creates reaction when your family, friends, co workers whomever sees the new you the positive feed back will amaze you.
§So it’s time for ACTION
References :
http://www.rebuildselfesteem.com/index.html
http://personaldevelopment.suite101.com/article.cfm/change_your_life_and_live_again
http://www.selfconfidence-selfesteem.info/how_to_regain_your_Lost_self_confidence.htm
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/action_plan_article.htm