I really want to have good self confidence and self esteem. I still have this belief of being an inconsequential or unimportant person. Any suggestions on how to build myself up?
This may sound odd, but hear me out.
Learn to develop a reinforcing voice.
There were times during my younger days where I would let the SMALLEST thing grind on my nerves. If someone ever bumped my shoulder in the street or looked at me funny, I'd either be wracked with feelings of low self-esteem or be riddled with anger. This would last for hours, churning away in my head to the point that it would put me in a bitter, spite-filled mood for the rest of the day.
Now these events that started this, were small and insignificant, so it was ridiculous that I would let it get to me. But as you can understand, this negative attitude made things even worse.
Fast forward for a bit. After reading a few books and listening to a lot of good constructive advice, I started listening to my concience a little more. I turned it into a nuturing, reinforcing voice whenever something bad happened. I'm sure you've done the same when you've talked yourself down in your own head. We all do it, but what you need to do, is use that to boost your confidence and really give yourself a strong pat on the back!
Whenever something get's you down, or you're feeling a little glum, turn those doubts the other wayt around. Tell youself that you're worrying over the little stuff, push yourself to find positivity in the moment. Be your own life-coach! 
#1 by Eggroll Jenkins on May 26th, 2009
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Do something that you can be proud of….for example start a daily exercise routine and stick to it, start taking a few classes at a local college….never stop learning….and remember, we are all equal…no one is more important than anybody else.
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#2 by Danna on May 26th, 2009
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I would say you need to figure out why you are feeling this way. As they have said before, many people's insecurities stem from something else. After you do this, then you have to believe that you willbe okay. It is not enough to tell yourself that. Sit down and make out a list of all the good things about yourself and put it where you can see it every day! Every time you look there, you will be reminded of all the good things about yourself.
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psychology student.
#3 by bubbles on May 26th, 2009
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Believe in yourself.Focus on what you do that is good or you are good at.Eveyone is important.Such as someone doing something for you and it spreads the idea of doing something good for someone.Everyone has the potential for greatness.
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#4 by jo-jo on May 26th, 2009
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yoga & mediation
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#5 by Missy W on May 26th, 2009
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you know wut i do??
i always praise myself. i boast in front of people. though it's exactly true. after that i just have the feeling that i am wut i just sid
i call that self esteem.
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#6 by aj24 on May 26th, 2009
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believe in urself man
coz remember tht wat ever u do U DO IT!
so take a deep breath and..
walk as if u rule d world..nw dats attitude..
love wat u r doin n do it with ur whole heart..
n nu will succeed…
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#7 by Adam B on May 26th, 2009
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This may sound odd, but hear me out.
Learn to develop a reinforcing voice.
There were times during my younger days where I would let the SMALLEST thing grind on my nerves. If someone ever bumped my shoulder in the street or looked at me funny, I'd either be wracked with feelings of low self-esteem or be riddled with anger. This would last for hours, churning away in my head to the point that it would put me in a bitter, spite-filled mood for the rest of the day.
Now these events that started this, were small and insignificant, so it was ridiculous that I would let it get to me. But as you can understand, this negative attitude made things even worse.
Fast forward for a bit. After reading a few books and listening to a lot of good constructive advice, I started listening to my concience a little more. I turned it into a nuturing, reinforcing voice whenever something bad happened. I'm sure you've done the same when you've talked yourself down in your own head. We all do it, but what you need to do, is use that to boost your confidence and really give yourself a strong pat on the back!
Whenever something get's you down, or you're feeling a little glum, turn those doubts the other wayt around. Tell youself that you're worrying over the little stuff, push yourself to find positivity in the moment. Be your own life-coach!
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#8 by Jacob W on May 26th, 2009
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You are as inconsquential as you choose to be. If you need to feel more important, (and who doesn't?) get involved. If you are able to, volunteer. Help other people who need help. It is very rewarding. Whether you are a volunteer first aid technician or simply help transport people who need it to doctor's appointments you will become a valuable asset to them.
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