im 14 now & mine usually sucks. i actually have confidence deep down inside, but it’s hard to find.
Mine was zero. I was not coordinated or fashion minded and I was in the band. I grew out it and am successful and have a wife and children now. You will get better. You are probably no worse off than any other 14 year old. Find what you enjoy and do it without worrying about others think.
#1 by Miguel Cortez on October 25th, 2009
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mine was sh*t on a wagon at 14.
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#2 by Jackie on October 25th, 2009
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im 15 and i have a lot of confidence in myself
when i was like 13 i used to hate myself…..
but i finally started looking at all of my good features
and once i had confidence in myself then other people started to like me better.
when you look in the mirror you really are seeing beauty because you are seeing yourself.
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#3 by budroscoe on October 25th, 2009
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Mine was in the tank at 14 don’t worry it gets better with age, as you come into your own if you will.
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#4 by keith s on October 25th, 2009
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Mine was zero. I was not coordinated or fashion minded and I was in the band. I grew out it and am successful and have a wife and children now. You will get better. You are probably no worse off than any other 14 year old. Find what you enjoy and do it without worrying about others think.
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#5 by grneyes1701 on October 25th, 2009
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mine was real crappy too, get used to it, 15 and 16 are just weird ages too. okay I lied, all ages are kinda like that….
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#6 by j0eysoseri0us on October 25th, 2009
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Mine was worse at 16, 14 it wasnt to good, but you stop caring after 16..
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#7 by brittany r on October 25th, 2009
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mine was low to no confidence. it was really hard to have it at that age. all the kids at school were so judgemental. it was really hard to stay cheery. but i have found ways to block their attacks ( adults do it to!!)
you just have to try and ignore the insults, because they arent true!
KNOW that you are a great person, because you ARE, we all are
good luck, 14-18 are really hard years, get through them and you can get through almost anything life throws at you
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#8 by amancalledj on October 25th, 2009
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Lower than at any other time in my life. I had gotten freakishly tall (6’3") very quickly but was stilll bone skinny, I had a girlfriend who was dishonest and slutty, and I was a smart kid who like to read books in a Midwestern redneck hick school. It was bad.
It gets better. I promise. I’m 31 now, but I still remember how badly 14 sucked. Sorry you’re going through it now.
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#9 by ena on October 25th, 2009
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F%@ken low. but now at 16 there’s a big difference
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#10 by Amoreena on October 25th, 2009
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Mine was LOW at that age. Trust me, the confidence that you have deep down inside will gradually come to the surface with life’s experiences. The more you experience-school, jobs, the people that you meet-the more confidence you will find. It just takes a little time and patience.
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#11 by calypsodraggon_2001 on October 26th, 2009
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Pretty low.
You can have self-esteem issues and not be aware of it; that was my problem.
A good way of getting it out more often is to associate a favorite object you have whenever you’re feeling really good about yourself. Whenever you feel down, look at or pick up whatever it is and it can be a good reminder. Try to take it with you so that whenever you have a really good day (or go somewhere fun with friends) it’ll add to the memories. That’s one of the biggest things to boost the spirit – if you have an object attached to the memories, it’ll spark them a lot easier than simply trying to remember something in a lot of cases.
It should change. If it goes on for a long time, get checked out for depression (if you have the means).
Edit: Hate to bring this into it, but some of the issues that come around at that age are due to hormones…it really musses with a person and seems like it shouldn’t make that much of a difference.
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#12 by richie on October 26th, 2009
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Don’t read fashion magazines. It’s been proven in psychology researches that it lowers your self-esteem. Do sports, study a
lot, hang around a good crowd.
Get interested in things that make you unique, different and creative. Know who you are in God and not what the world thinks of you. You can even keep a journal. Try things that your gut tells you to do and that are right even if it makes you different.
The best way to have a good self-esteem and self-confidence is to know that you are truly loved for who you are
no matter what. Be creative, exercise, meditate (writing, reading) socialize and try to change the world if you have a cause at heart.
Say " I Love myself" everyday in the morning. And one day you will actually believe and think it.
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#13 by Bush Blows on October 26th, 2009
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at 14, mine sucked. Lived in an abusive household. Glad other seemingly normal people here had low self esteem at that time, maybe i wasnt as abnormal as i thought
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#14 by Earl D on October 26th, 2009
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It was CARP (that’s a smelly fish)
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Can I be more direct or clearer to you!
#15 by egn18s on October 26th, 2009
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I was depressed out of my mind from about ages 14 through 18 and had no self-confidence at all. Now, at 26, I have a good amount of self-confidence but I’m still depressed more often than not.
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#16 by Kim on October 26th, 2009
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If you can/have a good conversation with your mom and dad. Explain how you feel only, do not lay blame on them for anything, nothing, but let them know you need to feel more secure and can they help you with this. If they help by giving you affirmations, you learn to give yourself affirmations and confidence and this above all other thing s will help you. Listen to your self talk and ask your self if the thing you are saying are constructive or destructive to your confidence, build it up from inside. Treat everyone in a way that you want them to treat you and do not judge anyone, thus you judge yourself. Always say I am not I think, eg: I am healthy and I am strong, I am going to help myself a little each day, I am going to accept my weakness and improve it, I am going to give myself more confidence by reassuring myself. I am not going to lie to myself but always I am going to tell myself truthfully what I am doing, what I am good at and what I am going to improve because I am worth it, and I am going to succeed. I hope this helps and creates good relations between you and your family for ever more. best wishes.
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