I noticed during my illness and now years later, I lost a lot of self esteem and confidence. It is still hard for me to have self esteem and confidence. Many people try and bring it up or put me in positions but get frustrated when I cannot and stay the same sort of person. I cannot be assertive or have a lot of confidence or self esteem or communication skills when it is holding me back. I have accepted who I am and what I can and cannot do. Why can't others?
Why do people think I am lazy when I just know what I can and cannot do, and refuse to do anything which is setting me up to fail?
Yea, you may have excepted "it" but it seems you still don't like being that way. I was very depressed for a long time and instead of low self-esteem being a symptom of that illness I think it may be a cause. The anti-depressives lifted my sadness but not my self-esteem. That took some work with a counselor. The only thing I can say about that work is that I wish I hadn't waited so long to start because I feel so much better now. All the hard work was worth it. Good Luck.
#1 by Reba on June 13th, 2009
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I think it is all part of the illness itself. People who have no experience with depression don't understand that you can't just shake it off and move on. Since you know your limitations, then work with your strengths. Dont' be afraid to try new things though, but do it in baby steps.
I have to limit myself to 1 major thing a day. What really helps is planning my day out in my head. I list all the things I have to do and when I have to so them, then I do it!
I have a huge problem with new situations, but sometimes there is no way out of it, so I just have to force myself to go through with it. Once I do then I feel much better. You may not be at that point yet, but you will get there. Just like AA you have to take it one day at a time!!
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#2 by bren on June 13th, 2009
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Yea, you may have excepted "it" but it seems you still don't like being that way. I was very depressed for a long time and instead of low self-esteem being a symptom of that illness I think it may be a cause. The anti-depressives lifted my sadness but not my self-esteem. That took some work with a counselor. The only thing I can say about that work is that I wish I hadn't waited so long to start because I feel so much better now. All the hard work was worth it. Good Luck.
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