If you lack self esteem and are low in self confidence then you probably spend a lot of time wishing you had the confidence to act and behave in the way people with high self esteem do.
If you want to be happier and derive more from life incresing your self confidence and self esteem is the key and its easy to do with these simple tips.
What Low Self Esteem Means
Having low self esteem and lacking confidence in your ability to do the things youâ??ve always wanted to do can distort your views, making you think everything always seems to go right for everyone but you.
The Cure
In reality, people who appear to be high in self confidence and always seem to get what they want simply believe in themselves. Being high in self esteem opens you up to the possibility of success rather than failure.
If you are high in self esteem you understand that failing at something means just that, you have failed at one task, it does not make you a failure.
What is Self Esteem?
Self esteem refers to the way you perceive yourself and the way you think others perceive you.
If you have low self esteem then you will tend to have a low opinion of yourself, your capabilities and how people perceive you.
If you have a high sense of self esteem then you will have a positive and realistic opinion of yourself and how people perceive you. You will have a good awareness of your strengths and weaknesses.
How to recognize if you are suffering from Low Self Esteem
If youâ??re internal thoughts tend to begin with:
â?¢ I canâ??tâ?¦
â?¢ I mustâ?¦
â?¢ I shouldâ?¦
The chances are you are suffering from low self esteem
How to Build Confidence and Self Esteem
People with a highly developed sense of self esteem have the self confidence to achieve their goals. Succeeding at the goals they set for themselves adds to the self confidence building blocks they already have in place.
Each successive achievement creates opportunities for greater success and self belief which increases their perception of self esteem.
Having a positive sense of self perception and self esteem is one of the most important factors for increasing your self confidence as if you believe you will succeed at a task then the chances are you will.
If you believe you are going to fail at a task, then you will act accordingly, and the chances are you will fail.
Tips for improving self esteem:-
â?¢ Make a list of all your strengths. Remember we are all good at something. Your list could include being a good parent, a loyal friend or a trusted employee.
â?¢ Perception creates reality so perceive yourself as someone who achieves the things you set out to do.
â?¢ Remember that success builds upon success, so set yourself small goals initially, and build on them.
â?¢ Believe in yourself. For every negative belief you hold about yourself think of four positive ones. If you canâ??t think of beliefs that are true at the moment then think of beliefs you would like to be true that you can work towards.
â?¢ Choose two things that you know you are good at and think of three ways you could work to improve each of these even more. By concentrating on areas that you know you are already good at will improve your confidence and be a good building block for future success.
â?¢ Even if you sometimes donâ??t feel like it always act in a confident manner.
â?¢ Make a list of positive affirmations that you can use to encourage yourself and raise your confidence.
â?¢ Surround yourself with positive, successful, confident people.
By practicing these tips aimed at raising your confidence and self esteem, you will begin to change the way you perceive yourself and the things you are able to achieve.
Increase Your Self Esteem & Get More From Life
As your self esteem increases you can start to think about the things you used to put yourself down for and use the same techniques to build on your confidence.
Donâ?? allow small setbacks to diminish your newly gained self esteem. Keep it in perspective and remember itâ??s just that, a small setback.
Sacha Tarkovsky
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/self-esteem-simple-tips-to-improve-your-self-confidence-80878.html
#1 by Mouchette on June 13th, 2009
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What are some simple things I could do to build my self-esteem?
Do you have any tips for improving self-esteem? What are some things I could do (actions or ways of thinking, etc.) that would help to gain confidence and self-assurance?
Thank you very much
#2 by All Things Must Pass on June 13th, 2009
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Be respectable.
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#3 by a random person on June 13th, 2009
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Jesus loves you no matter who you are or what you have or will do.
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#4 by paperplanes on June 13th, 2009
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just tell yourself you're better than everyone else 24/7. works for me, hehe. plus i am better than everyone else so it's ok.
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*~**~ bEinG FaBuLouZ*~*
#5 by Signilda on June 13th, 2009
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random acts of kindness … it feels good to put positive energy out there and it definitely will make you feel good about yourself.
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#6 by Amber on June 13th, 2009
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Find friends that make you feel beautiful and loved–you may think that's impossible, but you don't have real friends until you have ones likes that.
And: ditch the others for good.
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#7 by Dave on June 13th, 2009
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I would look in the mirror and tell myself one good thing about me every day, that was different then the last time. It worked for me.
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#8 by Dorothea on June 13th, 2009
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Make a list of your insecurities, e.g. Can't cook, Don't know current events, Need to lose weight, etc. Address the ones that can be addressed. Learn to accept the others. Just the fact that you're asking such a question, without typos, indicates you have less to feel bad about than most of the people on Yahoo Answers.
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#9 by Fizzy on June 13th, 2009
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Sit straight (not so stiff, just enough to) and show a calmly behaviour.
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#10 by Chrizzle on June 13th, 2009
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make your self look good, it give you a good feeling about ur self.
and what i do is think.. 'what would a confident person do ?' it really works.
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#11 by Evelyn L on June 13th, 2009
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Try doing something you would never do or think you can do. Even if you don't succeed keep in mind that you tried something new and you did it.
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#12 by Adam on June 13th, 2009
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realize that you are a human
know what you are capable of
dont look down on yourself
find something that you are good at
when you try something, try your hardest
do not down yourself before trying something new
try to understand the world better
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#13 by Cameron on June 13th, 2009
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Be respectable? hahahaheha don't listen to him/her just smoke a dubie hang out with new friends and smoke a dubie with them, get a boyfriend or girlfriend, and smoke a dubie with him/her. these are all good ideas.
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#14 by tom t on June 13th, 2009
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1) go out there and meet people (not fake ones) REAL people.
2) initiate small conversations
3) exercise
4) wear clothes that makes you look and feel good
5) give yourself rewards
6) AVOID NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENT.
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#15 by Alex on June 13th, 2009
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learn a new language
find something u've always wanted to do an get really good at it
try workin out for a few months with a set goal in mind
or try traveling
a change of scenery can help change ur prospective on life
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#16 by Thando 15 on June 13th, 2009
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create a mindset – your are equal to anybody you encounter
when having a conversation with someone, maintain eye contact because it shows you're confident
believe in yourself – as cliche as it sounds you have to have faith in your abilities
identify your weaknesses (build on these) and your strengths . use them to your advantage
and finally speak your mind – it shows that you value your opinion but in the end don't be arrogant, don't forget yourself, and always be respectful
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#17 by mickylee13 on June 13th, 2009
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A looong time ago my Mom actually taught me something very valuable.. She had me sit in front of a mirror and point out all the things that made me unique..i.e. I have blue eyes, I have a slightly crooked nose. So be they good or not so good she showed me that they were mine only and that I was special.
Also don't just focus on your appearance; think about who you are as a person (nice things that you do, say; ways you contribute to your friend's and family's lives). Now if you can't think of anything in this category – get to work! Try to compliment at least 1 person a day, do extra chores for your Mom, volunteer time for a good cause). Once you realize there's a lot more important things than your appearance; you won't even be worrying about your self-esteem.
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#18 by Namaste on June 13th, 2009
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I know this is kind of new agey, but affirmations really do help stop the negative self talk.
Every day say positive things to yourself in the mirror.
"You are a smart person!"
"I love you!"
"You are a good friend.", etc…
Next, behave in a way that builds your integrity. Mind your temper, don't speak harshly about others, find the positive in any situation. Of course we all slip with this one on occasion but remember, perfection is a myth. It doesn't exist.
Also, learn something new. Is there anything you've ever wanted to learn? From building model airplanes to knitting, learn something or start a project and follow it to the end. Self esteem can come from the accomplishment of just finishing something.
And always, always, always….be kind to yourself.
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#19 by Miaaah on June 13th, 2009
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WELL . i use to have really really low self esteem in 7th grade .. all this year ive been working on building up my self esteem . im in 8th grade now, will be a freshman … anyways .. just every morning before you go to school/work/movies/beach look in the mirror and point out all the good things about you . IGNORE the flaws (its hard when you start, but train yourself) also . think positive, stand up straight . people tend to compliment you more when you stand up straight, all depends on how you carry yourself .. also, do somee minor things to look better . straighten/curl hair . put some makeup on(not too much) good luck babe
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#20 by Stacey on June 13th, 2009
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Running. Make a goal. It may be to run a mile, run 10 or run a marathon. At first you feel like "I could never do this" then you stretch yourself and surpass your limitations and expectations of yourself. Find a partner to do it with. Tell people your doing it. Get encouragement!
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Myself. I use to have asthma. I couldn't run 40 feet let alone a marathon. I am now training and running the Portland marathon in October. I feel so much self confidence and my self esteem has risen greatly due to just a simple thing as pushing my limits. You don't have to be great looking or the most successful, simply push the limitations of your body and mind. There is great reward.
#21 by buddhaledread on June 13th, 2009
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Tackle small, attainable, realistic goals throughout the day.
Add something a little different to your look that's simple and not too overbearing for a little pizazz.
Have a good posture when walking or standing.
Exercise does WONDERS for pushing serotonin through your brain (which is the chemical responsible for happiness). Even things that aren't strenuous like Yoga (for beginners, not all that wrapping your leg around your head 3x stuff). I did 20 minutes of yoga every morning in high school and it boosted my metabolism, self esteem, made me more energetic, motivated and more successful in school. Eating right also helps with all that. Lots of fruit and veggies, especially for midday snacks. Let's face it, if you're munchin on doughnuts, you never feel that great about yourself.
Helping out others also helps in confidence. Even just helping someone cross the street. Some sort of "good deed for the day." You feel like a worth while, valuable person on this earth.
Find something unique about yourself and accentuate it, whether it's physical, mental, emotional, whatever. Feel proud about your unique quality.
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#22 by Sarah on June 13th, 2009
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I dealt with this issue for a long time, and i know it's really hard. Still, there are some ways to make yourself feel confident every day. Eventually, this can accumulate into self esteem.
Find something you're good at and work at it every day. For me, it's writing and art. If I'm doing one of those things, I feel like I'm being productive and I'm a lot happier.
Exercise. I know, when you have low self esteem, it's hard to go to a gym and be around other people. Still, you can do things at home or go running in your neighborhood. Go to youtube and check out 8 minute abs and the other 8 minute videos. They work and they're from the 90's, so if anything that'll be your comic relief for the day! -Seriously, apart from being in shape, your endorphin levels will be higher, which will make you happier.
Spend time with people who appreciate you. Accept compliments if people are giving them. Believe that you have something to offer. On that note, you should be comfortable in your own skin above everything else. Whatever that means for you; certain clothes, being outgoing or not, etc. If you're comfortable, you're more likely to experience new things and your anxiety won't be able to affect you as much.
Bottom line: Do what you love, be who you want to be, and take every chance to see the positive side of life. With that kind of attitude, self esteem will come, I promise.
Take care and best of luck to you!
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#23 by confused on June 13th, 2009
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Try avoiding various mirrors, try less mirror time. Depending on lighting and quality of mirror, may cause us to feel low self esteem almost as if our minds letting us know lowering our
self absorbtion can raise our self esteem.
An automatic law "inscribed" within.
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#24 by sweet Lavender on June 13th, 2009
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Laugh, be cheerful, just go places!
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#25 by Matt on June 13th, 2009
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Accomplish some smaller goals that you have.
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#26 by Lucy C. ? on June 13th, 2009
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If you have low self-esteem then it would be a good idea if everyday you tell yourself in the mirror something you love about yourself.Forget about your flaws !
Hope I helped !
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#27 by Haley M on June 13th, 2009
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everything that people are saying is what i can think of!
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#28 by padma m on June 13th, 2009
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First of all ,count on your positive points and try to correct the weak points . The method of talking ,the way of dressing and presenting one self , technique of tackling the difficult situation add to self confidence.
Good friends really help us to be cheerful and active. It will boost our self esteem.All the best!
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#29 by Phil on August 25th, 2009
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“If it is to be. it is up to me.”