Hi!
I’m in my mid-20s and the past few months have had a confidence problem. I’m not depressed or hating life, just lacking confidence. I have a wonderful boyfriend who I’m very happy with and this is unfortantley effecting our relationship. Any ideas or hints that you might have done that worked to boost your confidence? Any ideas would be great!
Thanks and have a good day!
…..Confidence is something you earn by doing two things –
- Achieving things, large and small
- Giving yourself full credit.
Every time you acknowledge that you did well, it’s like making a deposit in a personal account of self-worth. The interest you earn is confidence/self-esteem. The key is to not discount the good things you are and the good things you do.
For an immediate boost, I suggest the following. Make a list of your strengths, areas of knowledge, skill, experience, and everything you’ve achieved so far – large or small. Don’t leave anything out. As you review the list, sincerely affirm the worth and value of each thing.
I guarantee you’ll feel better about yourself.
#1 by swt_chica95 on August 20th, 2009
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positive self talk and knowing the fact that no one’s opinion matters except yours, if you think that and someone tells you something negative, a good comeback would help! i know it sounds school girl-ish, but it helped me
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#2 by Jennifer J on August 20th, 2009
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…..Confidence is something you earn by doing two things –
- Achieving things, large and small
- Giving yourself full credit.
Every time you acknowledge that you did well, it’s like making a deposit in a personal account of self-worth. The interest you earn is confidence/self-esteem. The key is to not discount the good things you are and the good things you do.
For an immediate boost, I suggest the following. Make a list of your strengths, areas of knowledge, skill, experience, and everything you’ve achieved so far – large or small. Don’t leave anything out. As you review the list, sincerely affirm the worth and value of each thing.
I guarantee you’ll feel better about yourself.
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#3 by avishtevi on August 20th, 2009
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sounds like this is a recent change in your views on yourself. Think about the root of the change (weight gain, loss of job etc) and try to work on that part of your life that is bringing you down. If you are in a healthy relationship it is exactly the type of thing you can discuss with him and get some important feedback.
good luck!
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#4 by Psych_gal on August 20th, 2009
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I see where you are coming from — I’ve had similar problems with my self-esteem. I can give you some strategies you could try if u liked —
Firstly, force yourself to write down all the positive aspects about yourself — it could be anything from nice hair or nice taste in clothes to being kind to people, loving animals etc. (You get the drift!) It may be hard so get the help of loved ones…we usually tend to miss out certain things about ourselves which are actually noticed by others. Then stick this up in your room or keep it in your diary — basically take a look at it everyday. It should help with the self-esteem in making you feel better about yourself and therbey help your confidence as well.
In short, we do have positives but we don’t really notice them until they are down in writing — in hard copy.
Hope this helps! Good luck!!!
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Personal experience and intern psych
#5 by rottweilerjohn on August 20th, 2009
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Go sky-diving…you will have accomplished something you have always wanted to "try-before-you-die" and it will have an immediate and profound effect on the way you see the world around you.
also observe your own body language–don’t drag your feet, keep your chin up, and look others in the eye when you speak to them.
get your OWN motorcycle- to foster that sense of feedom and independence that burns within us all.
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THE ROTTWEILER OF WISDOM, AND COMMON SENSE.
#6 by JustMe on August 21st, 2009
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Start with positive thoughts. Read the following relevant articles:~
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http://www.public-speaking-solutions.com/build-confidence.html
http://www.public-speaking-solutions.com/self-esteem.html
http://www.relationship-affairs.com/Thoughts.html